Everyone has sexual fantasies. It is pretty much a guarantee your new man has a few up his sleeve. Those fantasies can range from mild to straight up crazy.
In our not-so-modern sexual era, some fantasies have been misconstrued as kinky fetishes. Sure, some acts are pretty crazy. But other, tamer, actions – like hair pulling, spanking, and biting – are just a natural extension of the passion that is taking place.
When you encounter one of these situations, how will you proceed? Will you think your man is a creep or will you give him a coy smile and tell him to carry on?
Hair Pulling, Spanking and Biting
Reading this, you may think these behaviors are pretty childish. However, we’d like to argue they add an uninhibited layer to already outstanding sex. And until you’ve tried it, you probably shouldn’t knock it!
If you suspect your man is holding back, talk to him (preferably before getting busy). See what exactly it is he wants to try. Otherwise, he will probably cautiously test the waters to see how you will react.
If you are the one interested in engaging in a bit of hair pulling, spanking or biting, use common sense (which women seem to have more of during sex anyways!). Also, these acts are best done during a passionate sexual encounter. Don’t throw something new and unexpected into an office quickie!
We all have pressure points on the scalp that makes hair pulling very sensuous. Hopefully, your man knows to be gentle. If he gets too rough, don’t be afraid to speak up. Also, when you do a little pulling of your own, don’t yank. Hair loss isn’t the goal here! Grab a handful of hair close to the scalp and tug gently.
Spanking is one of those things that tend to grow on you. If your man does it once, expect him to try it again. If you don’t like it, tell him. Otherwise, he probably won’t stop on his own.
The first couple encounters might feel strange. The eroticism comes later. And there doesn’t need to be spanks every time unless specifically requested.
The success of biting relies on pressure, timing and frequency. Always keep it gentle. Don’t do it too often. Avoid super sensitive areas (unless permission is granted). And don’t leave marks.
If you like your first couple of nips, tell him. Let him know where and how you like it. Also, don’t be afraid to retaliate!
So, what’s the final verdict? Are your guy’s experiments going to be given the green light or will the action come to a screeching halt?
Guest author Ann Garland has recently become a fan of hair pulling. She even checked out this site – How to Make Your Hair Grow – so she could enjoy the experience even more!
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- The top five female fantasies in bed (cnn.com)